How to Write a Personal Ad: Find a Match With This Guide

Doublelist Team

January 17, 2023 8 minutes read
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Knowing how to write a personal ad that piques readers’ curiosity is the first step in creating a dating profile that’s scroll-stopping and left swipe-resistant. You can make people laugh. Catch the attention of somebody who’s on the same dating wavelength. Make someone eager to get to know you more. Or instantly make a connection with a person who has similar needs and interests.

In this day and age, online daters mindlessly swipe left or right based on nothing more than a fleeting glance at somebody’s photos. So why should you bother learning how to write a good personal ad? You should take the time to do it if compatibility is a priority for you. Are you looking for a hookup or lasting romance? A clear description of your hopes and desires will help you avoid the disappointment and frustration that are an accepted norm when online dating.

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Tips for How to Write a Great Personal Ad for a Dating Site

Here are some basic dos and don’ts to help you write a great personal ad.

  1. Be honest. The only way you’ll get exactly what you want is by being honest about what you want. Just interested in sex? Make that clear in your dating profile. Looking for a serious relationship? Say that. You should also be honest when describing yourself. This will ensure that you’ll only match with those who are genuinely interested and with whom you’re most compatible.

  2. Don’t make yourself vulnerable. Don’t share personal details that might compromise your privacy and safety. Remember that people who read your dating profile are complete strangers. Don’t share your home address, work address, contact information, family information, etc. Use the dating site’s messaging feature to communicate with potential matches and get to know them first. After you’ve communicated enough, you may consider meeting in a busy and public place to see if the two of you would click.

  3. Keep things light. If you’re the deep, introspective, and philosophical type, you may be tempted to write a thought-provoking essay for your personal ad. While doing so follows tip #1, you can still be true to yourself and be easygoing at the same time. Be conversational. If you can be funny, that would be even better. Don’t get too serious from the get go, even if you’re hoping to meet your soulmate. You can engage in more serious conversations once you match with someone.

  4. Use recent and unique photos. This goes back to keeping things honest. Photos taken in the last two or three months should be fine. As much as possible, choose pictures you haven’t posted anywhere else online. Don’t use photos that you’ve shared on your social media accounts, especially if you don’t want to be tracked using your dating profile images.

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Samples of Personal Ads to Inspire You

If you’re still not sure how to write a personal ad that will connect with the right person, take a look at other ads. Find ones that you like, or ads that you would actually respond to. Study their wording and tone.

Do you get a sense of honesty from the person? Are they clear about what they’re looking for? Take cues from the profiles that catch your attention when writing your personal ad. Here are some samples of personal ads to get you started.

Samples for How to Write a Funny Personal Ad

Here’s a hilarious collection derived from the London Review of Books.

  • “All humans are 99.9% genetically identical, so don’t even think of ending any potential relationship begun here with “I just don’t think we have enough in common.”

  • “Some men can only be loved by their own mother. Not me, I’ve got Mr. Snugly Panda. Male, 36 and Mr. Snugly Panda, also 36.”

  • Looking for “a bloke who doesn’t spend 15 hours a day pretending he’s a heroic blacksmith killing stuff in some other-dimensional village resembling Cottingsley, West Yorkshire, circa 1902.”

Samples for How to Write a Cuckold Personal Ad

These samples for how to write a cuckold personal ad are for hetero couples. The couple may be looking for a male third just for the wife/girlfriend or for males looking for a cuckold couple. Make sure you establish threesome rules.

  • Couple looking for a big cock to play. My partner wants to watch me get good and fucked by a big thick cock. He is not bi however wants to be involved while you both fuck me until I cant handle anymore.

  • Looking for my bull. Married female looking for an attractive single male experienced in a hot wife relationship. I am looking for more than quick sex. Prefer more of a long term dating type of relationship. Serious replies only

  • Looking for hot wife. Well-hung male looking for hot wife with a husband who’s eager to share.


Samples for How to Write a Good Gay Personal Ad

The following samples for how to write a good gay personal ad are for men seeking men.

  • Looking for some fun. Single white male blonde hair blue eyes and you could’ve seen trying to experiment a little anybody out there.

  • Bottom Seeks a Top. Older Versatile, prefer bottom, seeks a top or versatile male. Any age, prefer well endowed but any size tops welcome.

  • Tattooed, bearded, a fan of yoga & meditation. Looking for an adventurous male partner to connect with.

  • Work hard, play hard, 6’2’’. Currently living my best life and enjoying every minute of it. Looking for someone to join me on this amazing ride!

  • If you are into tall, dark, and handsome, I’m your guy.

Samples for How to Write a Personal Ad as a Tomboy

These samples for how to write a personal ad as a tomboy are part of a collection published on @herstorypersonals on Instagram.

    Gentle butch Capricorn ISO a wife. DM if you love receiving massages, Rupaul, breakfast in bed & petting dogs. Hold my hand while I drive you to the cottage. Read me your favorite books & tell me about your day to turn me on.
    @obbeba Toronto, ON

    boss lady slash party boy seeks in between worlds emotionally intelligent POC for casually deep sex vacations. me: low key workaholic gaysian / high key pleasure heavy beach bimbo. you: high sex drive, hot tubs, and rosé. seasoned sluts of all genders & bad girls to the front.
    @Fortheloveofgaysians Bay Area/ LA

    I’m an extremely trusting lesbian looking for a fling or a wife or anything in between. ideal date: smoke you out, feed you fruit, read your palm, & kiss your neck. 22 yo vers, soft femme w/ soft skin. please keep me warm this winter.
    @fabrizio.brambilla Chicago, IL


Personal Ads for Hookups and Casual Connections

If you’re just looking to hookup or engage in some dirty talk or naughty flirting online, knowing how to write a personal ad is pretty straightforward. Check out these personal ads for casual encounters on a popular adult personals site to get your motor running, in every sense of the phrase!

  • Hey looking for a sexting buddy for tonight see how it goes. (West havestraw)

  • 24 f4m naughty daddy to treat me right (New York)

  • Looking for casual fwb with mature thick or bbw (Uptown Manhattan)

  • I’m looking for someone who loves to receive oral pleasure (Flushing)

  • Straight guy looking for a dominant top (Washington Height)

  • Handsome drama-free caucasian male 47 for asian tg/cd (Bensonhurst/Sunset)

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