{"id":46132,"date":"2024-09-25T08:00:00","date_gmt":"2024-09-25T08:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/?p=46132"},"modified":"2024-11-11T04:06:13","modified_gmt":"2024-11-11T04:06:13","slug":"submissive-texting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/submissive-texting\/","title":{"rendered":"Submissive Texting Guide: The Do\u2019s and Don\u2019ts"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You\u2019ve dabbled in the world of sexy texts, and you\u2019re ready to take things up a notch. Maybe you\u2019ve seen steamy conversations online, or you\u2019re already in a Dom\/Sub relationship and want to explore your dynamic. Either way, if you\u2019re getting curious about making your texts as tantalizing as possible, you\u2019re in the right place!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Submissive texting is more than just sending a \u201cYes, Sir\/ Ma\u2019am\u201d here and there. It\u2019s all about building trust and respecting boundaries. That way, you can create a more electrifying connection with your partner. It doesn\u2019t matter whether you\u2019ve known them for years or you\u2019re just starting to explore your Dom\/Sub partnership.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This guide will walk you through everything you need to know about submissive texting. We\u2019ll go from the basics of Dom\/Sub relationships to in-depth tips for keeping your texts spicy yet safe.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">By the end, you\u2019ll be a pro at sending dirty sexting messages that keep your Dom hooked and coming back for more. Let\u2019s dive right in!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/free_dating_sites_in_georgia_3-1024x576.png\" alt=\"DoubleList graphic of two people exchanging romantic messages.\" class=\"wp-image-45091\" srcset=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/free_dating_sites_in_georgia_3-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/free_dating_sites_in_georgia_3-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/free_dating_sites_in_georgia_3-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/free_dating_sites_in_georgia_3-1536x864.png 1536w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/free_dating_sites_in_georgia_3-2048x1152.png 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">A Quick Guide to Dom\/Sub Relationships<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Before we get into the nitty gritty of submissive texts, we need to understand the foundation of Dom\/Subs. Whether <a href=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/bdsm-personals-embrace-your-deepest-desires\/\">BDSM is already in your sex life<\/a> or you\u2019re a newbie, a refresher can help you navigate being submissive.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What Are Dom\/Sub Relationships?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In a <a href=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/dom-sub-relationship-what-it-is-and-what-it-isnt-2\/\">Dom\/Sub relationship<\/a>, one person (the Dom) takes on the dominant role. The other (the sub) assumes the submissive role. The Dom has all the power and sets the rules and expectations &#8211; the sub consents to follow them.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But don\u2019t get it twisted &#8211; this isn\u2019t about one person being better than the other. It\u2019s all about mutual respect and trust. You both have a shared desire to explore a unique dynamic in a consensual way.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Why Trust and Consent Is All Important<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Trust is the bedrock of any Dom\/Sub partnership. The sub places complete trust in the Dom as long as they act responsibly. The Dom trusts the sub to talk openly about their limits and sexual desires.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Consent is an equally important part of a Dom\/Sub-dynamic. Everything that happens, including submissive texting, should be consensual. Both parties should agree on what their roles are and the boundaries they put in place.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/how-to-rizz-up-a-girl-2-1024x576.png\" alt=\"DoubleList graphic of a man and a woman laughing while reading text messages in their cellphones.\" class=\"wp-image-45068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/how-to-rizz-up-a-girl-2-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/how-to-rizz-up-a-girl-2-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/how-to-rizz-up-a-girl-2-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/how-to-rizz-up-a-girl-2-1536x864.png 1536w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/how-to-rizz-up-a-girl-2-2048x1152.png 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Why People Choose Dom\/Sub Partnerships<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">All types of people love the excitement of Dom\/Sub relationships. Some enjoy having clear roles in the bedroom. Others find power dynamics erotic. For some, it\u2019s a way to explore their sexuality in a controlled environment. If done right, it\u2019s a relationship that offers both deep emotional and sexual fulfillment.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What Is Submissive Texting?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now you\u2019re grasping what a Dom\/Sub situation looks like; we can dive into the fine art of submissive texting. Think of submissive texts as an extension of your dynamic in the digital world. <a href=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/meet-singles-the-ultimate-dating-guide\/\">Whether you are single<\/a> or not, it\u2019s all about expressing how submissive you are through your words and tone as you communicate with your Dom.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Let\u2019s take an even closer look at what submissive texting is and what it entails.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Language and Submission\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Language is powerful, especially in submissive texting. The words you choose and the way you phrase your sentences can all contribute to improving your dynamic. Phrases like \u201cYes, Sir\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m yours\u201d can instantly set the tone for a sexy, submissive conversation.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your tone should reflect your submissive role. This doesn\u2019t mean you need to be overly formal all of the time. But, there should be a clear difference in how you communicate when you\u2019re being submissive and not.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You might normally say something like, \u201cWhat do you want to do tonight?\u201d Instead, say, \u201cWhat would you like me to do for you tonight, Sir\/Ma\u2019am?\u201d when you\u2019re being submissive.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Watching-1024x576.png\" alt=\"DoubleList graphic of a woman smiling and drinking iced coffee while browsing dating websites on a laptop in an office space.\" class=\"wp-image-44768\" srcset=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Watching-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Watching-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Watching-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Watching-1536x864.png 1536w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Watching-2048x1152.png 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Power of Nonverbal Communication\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Believe it or not, nonverbal communication plays a role when you\u2019re texting, too. Using emojis, punctuation, and varying the length of sentences can convey your submission. For instance, using \u201c&#8230;\u201d at the end of your messages can indicate your anticipation. All this adds more depth to your submissive texts.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Using emojis like the \u201chandcuffs\u201d or the \u201cbowing person\u2019 can add playfulness and submissiveness to your messages. Just be mindful not to overdo it. Keep it subtle, and let the words carry the weight of your submissiveness.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Submissive Texting as Foreplay<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Most Sub\/Dom couples that know each other in person use submissive texting as a form of foreplay. This has been a <a href=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/most-popular-kinks\/\">popular kink<\/a> for some time now. It lets you build anticipation for when you and your Dom are together in person. Think of it as laying the groundwork for the physical stuff later on.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The right dirty text messages can set the stage for a sexually exhilarating encounter, even if it\u2019s weeks away.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/8.-Doublelist-Watercolor-1-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"DoubleList graphic of diverse people socializing and sharing love in a busy cafe to symbolize dating on DoubleList.\" class=\"wp-image-44832\" srcset=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/8.-Doublelist-Watercolor-1-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/8.-Doublelist-Watercolor-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/8.-Doublelist-Watercolor-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/8.-Doublelist-Watercolor-1-1536x864.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/8.-Doublelist-Watercolor-1-2048x1152.jpg 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How To Be Submissive in Text With a Stranger<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Entering into submissive texting with a complete stranger can be thrilling. It requires a lot more finesse, as you want to express your submissiveness without coming on too strong. Here are some tips for how to be submissive in text with a stranger.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Start Slowly\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When you\u2019re texting someone new, you should start with light BDSM texts. Ease into the conversation with flirtatious but sexy texts that hint at your submissive side. You might say something like, \u201cI love letting someone else take the lead.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">These kinds of messages wedge the door open to a more explicit conversation without overwhelming the Dom. If they\u2019re into it, they\u2019ll pick up on your cues and guide the conversation toward being kinky.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Gauge Their Intentions<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Not everyone is into BDSM or Dom\/Sub dynamics. It\u2019s crucial that you gauge the other person\u2019s interest before you dive into explicit texts. Pay attention to how they respond to your messages. Are they engaging in dominance and submission? Are they comfortable with the power dynamics you\u2019re hinting at?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If they seem into it, try to gradually introduce more submissive language and fantasies into your text.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Establish Boundaries Early\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Even though you\u2019re the sub, you should still outline where your boundaries lie. Let the other person know what you\u2019re comfortable with and what\u2019s off-limits. This will set the stage for a future relationship that\u2019s healthier and more respectful.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/conversation-starters-for-dates-1-1024x576.png\" alt=\"DoubleList animated graphic of three couples dating in a busy cafe.\" class=\"wp-image-45054\" srcset=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/conversation-starters-for-dates-1-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/conversation-starters-for-dates-1-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/conversation-starters-for-dates-1-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/conversation-starters-for-dates-1-1536x864.png 1536w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/conversation-starters-for-dates-1-2048x1152.png 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How To Be Submissive Over Text With Your Partner<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you\u2019re wondering how to be submissive over text with your partner, you\u2019re not alone. A lot of couples use it to spice things up in a long-term relationship or even a <a href=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/signs-a-casual-relationship-is-getting-serious\/\">serious relationship<\/a>. Here\u2019s how to write submissive texts for your partner that will leave them begging for more.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Set the Mood<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">First, you want to create an atmosphere that makes both of you feel anticipation. Start by sending a text that hints at your submissive mindset. Try something like, \u201cI\u2019ve been thinking about you all day, Sir\/Ma\u2019am. How can I serve you tonight?\u201d<br><br>This only works if you\u2019ve discussed a potential Dom\/Sub relationship. If you haven\u2019t, try something like, \u201cI\u2019m feeling submissive tonight. Can I serve your needs?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Use Pet Names\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pet names and titles are a staple in any Dom\/Sub relationship, and they\u2019re especially effective when submissive texting.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Try referring to your partner as:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Daddy\/ Mommy\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Master\/ Mistress<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Queen\/King<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">These names help to reinforce the power dynamic and add a layer of eroticism to your texts.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Describe Your Submissive Actions\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When you text your partner, try describing your actions. It can be incredibly arousing for the Dom and brings entire life to the dynamic, even if you\u2019re apart. You might text something similar to \u201cI\u2019m kneeling, like you taught me.\u201d<br><br>Describing your actions will help to give your partner a vivid image of your submission. It will make them feel more in control of you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ask for Permission\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">One of the most powerful ways to express your submission through text is by asking for permission before doing anything. This could be what you\u2019re allowed to wear or how you respond to messages.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You could text something like, \u201cMay I please take off my clothes, Sir\/ Ma\u2019am?\u201d Or, \u201cCan I send you a photo, Master\/Mistress?\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The act of asking can be arousing for people with a BDSM kink. It plays directly into the power dynamics of your relationship.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Use Role Playing and Scenarios<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Role-playing is a more <a href=\"https:\/\/www.statista.com\/statistics\/673149\/uk-survey-among-middle-aged-people-engaging-in-sexual-role-play\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">popular activity for the under-40s<\/a>. Submissive texting opens the door for more creative roleplay that adds some more depth to your dynamic. It can feed into both of your kinks, especially if you choose an elaborate fantasy.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Role-playing through text can help spice up your relationship, especially if you\u2019re in a long-distance relationship. It can also be safer and more controlled than acting it out in person.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/how-to-rizz-up-a-girl-1-1024x576.png\" alt=\"DoubleList graphic of a woman laughing in front of a purple backdrop.\" class=\"wp-image-45069\" srcset=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/how-to-rizz-up-a-girl-1-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/how-to-rizz-up-a-girl-1-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/how-to-rizz-up-a-girl-1-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/how-to-rizz-up-a-girl-1-1536x864.png 1536w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/how-to-rizz-up-a-girl-1-2048x1152.png 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3 Best Ways To Find Dominant Texting Partners<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Finding the right partner for submissive texting is crucial &#8211; especially if you\u2019re not already part of a BDSM relationship. There are plenty of ways to explore where you can meet like-minded people who find Dom\/Sub relationships hot.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. Check Out Dating Apps\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dating apps are an easy way to meet partners, including those who like BDSM. Many apps cater to these kinks, and you can filter for them or write them in your bio. Apps like Tinder, FetLife, and KinkD are great places to start.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&nbsp;Make sure you clearly set out what your expectations are for the relationship. That way, you can attract partners who like the same things as you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. Join Online Communities<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There are plenty of online forums catering to BDSM and kinks. Reddit has active communities where people can discuss all aspects of the Dom\/Sub relationship. Try subreddits like:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>r\/BDSM<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>r\/kink<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>r\/DomandSub\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">These are full of both Doms and Subs looking for advice or new partners. You\u2019ll likely find someone who wants purely a texting relationship.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. Post Personal Ads on DoubleList\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">An easy and direct way to find a dominant partner is by posting a personal ad on DoubleList. The site allows you to specify exactly what you want. That way, it\u2019s easier to find people who share the same interests.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When writing your ad, be clear and specific about what you want. You might write something like, \u201cSubmissive seeking a dominant partner for explicit texts and exploring power dynamics. Seeking a long-term digital dom with the potential for more.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This lets potential online partners know what to expect if they decide to contact you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Do\u2019s and Don\u2019ts of Dom\/Sub Texting<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now you\u2019ve got to grips with the basics, it\u2019s time we go over the do\u2019s and don\u2019ts of submissive texting. These guidelines will help make sure you have a safe and consensual experience. Let\u2019s take a look!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Do Communicate Clearly\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Clear communication should always be the foundation of any Dom\/Sub relationship. This also extends to submissive texting. Make sure you\u2019re clear about your boundaries and limits. If something makes you uncomfortable, speak up straight away.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A Dom that\u2019s worth knowing will respect your honesty and work within the boundaries you\u2019ve set.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Don\u2019t Skip the Consent Convo<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Consent is non-negotiable, even when the lines are blurry in BDSM relationships. Never assume that your Dom is okay with something just because you are. Always ask before you start introducing new elements to your dirty texting. Make sure you\u2019re both on the same page.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Do Respect Boundaries<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Just because you\u2019re in a Sub role doesn\u2019t mean you have to do anything you\u2019re not comfortable with. You should also respect the boundaries your Dom sets as well. If they say something is off-limits, never push it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Don\u2019t Overstep Your Role<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Submissives should always stay within their roles. This means you shouldn\u2019t try to take control of the situation or conversation. Leave that to your Dom. If you want to shake up your roles, you can always ask your partner later down the line.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Do Use Safewords<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Safewords aren\u2019t just for in-person BDSM play. It\u2019s just as important in digital communication. Having a safeword that either of you can use if things get too intense is a must. Both parties need to have a way to stop or slow down if they need to.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Don\u2019t Forget Aftercare<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Aftercare is essential for any BDSM interaction, including during texting. After a session, take some time to check in with each other. Make sure both of you are feeling good.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It could be as simple as sending them a follow-up text to see how your Dom is doing.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/5.-Doublelist-Dating-App-1-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"DoubleList animated graphic of a woman using a dating app for hookups and casual encounters.\" class=\"wp-image-44834\" srcset=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/5.-Doublelist-Dating-App-1-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/5.-Doublelist-Dating-App-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/5.-Doublelist-Dating-App-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/5.-Doublelist-Dating-App-1-1536x864.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/5.-Doublelist-Dating-App-1-2048x1152.jpg 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">FAQs\u00a0<\/h2>\n\n\n<div id=\"rank-math-faq\" class=\"rank-math-block\">\n<div class=\"rank-math-list \">\n<div id=\"faq-question-1727152685417\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question \">What is submissive texting in BDSM?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer \">\n\n<p>Submissive texting is all about expressing your submissive role in a BDSM relationship through your phone. You should use language, tone, and cues to reinforce the power dynamics that get you both off.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Submissive texts can start with light, flirtatious messages. They eventually go all the way to explicit texts that help you explore BDSM.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-1727152755618\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question \">How do I start submissive texting conversations?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer \">\n\n<p>If you want to ease into a submissive texting conversation, start by sending a message hinting at your submissive role. If you\u2019re already in a Dom\/Sub relationship, you can start by asking your Dom how you can serve them.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re texting someone new, never jump straight into explicit conversations. Start with lighter, more flirtatious messages to hint at your desire to be a sub. You could send something like, \u201cI enjoy pleasing others. What can I do for you?\u201d<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-1727152791982\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question \">How do I find dominant sexting partners online?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer \">\n\n<p>There are several ways to find dominant <a href=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/how-to-find-sexting-partners-warm-up-those-flirty-fingers\/\">sexting partners<\/a> online, including joining online communities, checking out dating apps, and finding sites that cater to this type of sexting.<\/p>\n<p>However, always be sure to research these sites to verify they are legitimate.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Find Dom\/Sub Relationships With Doublelist<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you\u2019re ready to dive into the sexy world of submissive texting but haven\u2019t found the right partner, try DoubleList. As a personal ads platform, DoubleList offers a space where you can connect with others looking for BDSM relationships.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Are you looking for a dominant partner to exchange explicit texts with or a long-term BDSM partner? DoubleList can make it easier to find exactly what you\u2019re looking for.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/\">Sign up to DoubleList today<\/a> and post your personal ad in your local area. Then, wait for the messages from potential Dom\u2019s to roll into your inbox!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You\u2019ve dabbled in the world of sexy texts, and you\u2019re ready to take things up a notch. Maybe you\u2019ve seen steamy conversations online, or you\u2019re already in a Dom\/Sub relationship and want to explore your dynamic. Either way, if you\u2019re getting curious about making your texts as tantalizing as possible, you\u2019re in the right place!&nbsp; &#8230; <a title=\"Submissive Texting Guide: The Do\u2019s and Don\u2019ts\" class=\"read-more\" href=\"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/submissive-texting\/\" aria-label=\"More on Submissive Texting Guide: The Do\u2019s and Don\u2019ts\">Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":45091,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[13],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-46132","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46132","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=46132"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46132\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":46134,"href":"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46132\/revisions\/46134"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/45091"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=46132"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=46132"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/doublelist.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=46132"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}